Why You’re Not Stuck - Your Subconscious Is Just Doing Its Job

Lauri Ingram
Jul 14
2 min read

You’ve read the books.

You’ve written the affirmations.

You’ve visualized the new life, pulled the oracle cards, and burned the palo santo.

So why does it still feel like you’re stuck in the same loop?

It’s not because you’re lazy, unmotivated, or blocked.

And it’s definitely not because you’re broken.

It’s because your subconscious is doing exactly what it was designed to do: keep you safe.

The Truth About "Being Stuck"

I remember hitting a point in my journey where it felt like I was living two lives.

I was deep in a long corporate career, while on a journey to remember who I was.

One part of me was deeply spiritual, intuitive, wise, ready to move forward and live my truth.

But the other part? She was scared.

She hesitated, doubted, self-sabotaged, and backed away from what she said she wanted.

It was frustrating and confusing.

What I didn’t know at the time is that the subconscious mind holds onto old stories for dear life, even if they no longer serve us. It runs 95% of our thoughts, behaviors, and habits. And it’s driven by one key directive: keep things familiar.

Even if that “familiar” pattern is keeping us small.

Why Mindset Work Isn’t Always Enough

Don’t get me wrong, mindset work is powerful.

But when your body and subconscious don’t feel safe with the new reality you’re trying to create, no amount of positive thinking can override the inner alarm system.

This is why you might:

Say “I want to be visible” and then avoid posting your work (this was me!)
Set a big, bold goal… and sabotage it within a week (yes, again...been there!)
Try to relax, but feel a background buzz of anxiety you can’t shake (a constant nudge was always there)

This doesn’t mean you’re broken.

It means your inner wiring just needs an update.

How to Actually Change That Wiring

This is where subconscious tools come in, tools that speak the same language your inner self understands: sensation, symbol, rhythm, repetition, and safety. When I added subconscious work to my journey, everything shifted for me, and those stories softened, even disappeared.

✨ EFT (Tapping) calms the body’s fight-or-flight response and clears emotional charges

✨ NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) helps you reframe internal beliefs and responses

✨ Hypnotherapy gently rewires patterns while bypassing resistance

✨ Energy work clears what isn’t yours and reconnects you to what is

Now, these are the tools I use in my one-on-one Spiritual Transformation Sessions and in my 6-session program, The Path of Unfolding. They’re also at the heart of my free Reset Toolkit, which you can download today.