Lauri Ingram

I've been thinking about why it is hard for me to have fun, to just do something because I can, or I enjoy it. Somewhere along the way, I decided that things only count if they're useful. If I make something, it should become a business, or at least a skill I can point to. If I want to spend an afternoon on something, I look for the reason first: who it's for, what it leads to, and whether anyone would approve. I don't think I chose this on purpose. I think I learned it from how things felt...

I still remember the conversation so clearly, one of those moments that changes your life but you do not realize it at the time. I was in my mid-50s, my daughter out of high school, having a conversation with a co-worker on an ordinary morning. I told them, plainly, that I couldn’t do “it” anymore. The “It”? just going to work, coming home, going to work again and going home again. Not burned out, but just going through the motions. Working. Going home. What was the point of it all? They...

You've read the books. Done the journaling. Maybe even sat with a coach or a therapist for years. And still there are mornings you wake up feeling exactly as stuck as you did before any of it. If that's you, I want you to hear this first. "It’s not because you did the work wrong. It’s because most of the work we’re taught to do only reaches one layer of who we are." The Three Layers We Tend to Miss Picture three layers, stacked like sediment. The conscious layer is the one we live in most of...